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RSV & Flu Season - Tips to keep your little one safe

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

Did you know flu season lasts from October to March? That's half the year (!) and we are right in the middle of it.

Over the past few months, you've probably heard the term "tripledemic," which refers to a collision of RSV flu, and COVID-19.

We know about COVID-19 all too well, as well as the flu, but if you have a new baby, you may not be familiar with RSV. It is the most common cause of pneumonia in babies younger than one, according to the U.S Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

So what exactly is RSV? It stands for respiratory syncytial virus, which is a viral illness that has symptoms that include trouble breathing. It can cause inflammation of the small airways in the lungs and pneumonia in babies. It is highly contagious and can cause a cough, runny nose and sometimes a fever, with symptoms usually lasting a week to 10 days.

As respiratory viruses have seen increases in children across the country, emergency rooms and hospitals have seen floods of patients.

According to yalemedicine.org, "Scott Roberts, MD, a Yale Medicine infectious diseases specialist, said that the country is seeing "record levels of RSV in young children. While the spike is usually seen in December and January, it began earlier this year.

Babies haven't developed immune responses and may not be able to fight off the infections very well. If you have a baby, you're probably wondering how to keep them healthy during this time?

Here are some tips we found online.

1. Get the flu shot

This is important and safe, not only for the mom, but for everyone who will be around the baby. Since your baby can't get their flu shot until they are six months old, the best way to keep them from getting it is by getting the shot yourself.

2. Wash your hands and use hand sanitizer

We've been doing this for almost three years now, so this shouldn't come as a surprise. Washing your hands frequently with soap and water or using hand sanitizer is one of the most important things to do each day. It may sound simple, but it is very effective.

3. Cover your mouth when coughing or sneezing

Flu and RSV can be spread through droplets containing the virus, especially when coughing or sneezing. Always cover your mouth (cough or sneeze into your shoulder or a tissue) to reduce the spread of germs. 

4. Stay away from sick people

If you know that a family member, the babysitter, or one of your friends has been under the weather, ask them to avoid seeing your child until they are completely well.

5. Hold off on kisses

You've probably seen the meme on social media about not letting anyone hold or kiss your babies during flu season. It's okay to politely tell people that it is "that season" and you are doing all you can to keep your baby healthy. 

6. Keep your baby covered when in public

When in public places, keep your baby in the stroller with a light covering. This can help keep people from wanting to see or touch them. There are also stroller tags that can be added to the stroller that warn people about getting close to your little one because of germs. 

7. Know when to call the doctor

If your child develops a fever over 100.3 degrees and is under 3 months old, contact their pediatrician. These serious illnesses can cause fevers in young infants and they need to be caught and treated quickly. If you are having trouble keeping your baby awake or you cannot wake your child, call the doctor immediately.

It's inevitable that your baby will get sick at some point, but by following these tips, it may keep them from being affected by the "tripledemic."

So how do Olli+Lime's products help keep your baby's nursery as germ-free as possible?

All of our products are durable and able to withstand the needed washings. Our fabrics are 100% cotton percale and twill, printed with water-based inks and free from toxic substances. The inks are heated to a high level, creating a stronger bond with fabric weave. This makes fabric softer and resistant to fading.

Our bedding is also OEKO-TEX Certified, which means it has been tested and is free from harmful substances and harmless to human health.

All of our crib sheets are fade resistant and give your baby the highest quality and comfort. Quality is our priority, and we only use the best fabrics.

We wish you and you: family a happy and healthy holiday season!

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RSV & Flu Season - Tips to keep your little one safe

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

Did you know flu season lasts from October to March? That's half the year (!) and we are right in the middle of it.

Over the past few months, you've probably heard the term "tripledemic," which refers to a collision of RSV flu, and COVID-19.

We know about COVID-19 all too well, as well as the flu, but if you have a new baby, you may not be familiar with RSV. It is the most common cause of pneumonia in babies younger than one, according to the U.S Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

So what exactly is RSV? It stands for respiratory syncytial virus, which is a viral illness that has symptoms that include trouble breathing. It can cause inflammation of the small airways in the lungs and pneumonia in babies. It is highly contagious and can cause a cough, runny nose and sometimes a fever, with symptoms usually lasting a week to 10 days.

As respiratory viruses have seen increases in children across the country, emergency rooms and hospitals have seen floods of patients.

According to yalemedicine.org, "Scott Roberts, MD, a Yale Medicine infectious diseases specialist, said that the country is seeing "record levels of RSV in young children. While the spike is usually seen in December and January, it began earlier this year.

Babies haven't developed immune responses and may not be able to fight off the infections very well. If you have a baby, you're probably wondering how to keep them healthy during this time?

Here are some tips we found online.

1. Get the flu shot

This is important and safe, not only for the mom, but for everyone who will be around the baby. Since your baby can't get their flu shot until they are six months old, the best way to keep them from getting it is by getting the shot yourself.

2. Wash your hands and use hand sanitizer

We've been doing this for almost three years now, so this shouldn't come as a surprise. Washing your hands frequently with soap and water or using hand sanitizer is one of the most important things to do each day. It may sound simple, but it is very effective.

3. Cover your mouth when coughing or sneezing

Flu and RSV can be spread through droplets containing the virus, especially when coughing or sneezing. Always cover your mouth (cough or sneeze into your shoulder or a tissue) to reduce the spread of germs. 

4. Stay away from sick people

If you know that a family member, the babysitter, or one of your friends has been under the weather, ask them to avoid seeing your child until they are completely well.

5. Hold off on kisses

You've probably seen the meme on social media about not letting anyone hold or kiss your babies during flu season. It's okay to politely tell people that it is "that season" and you are doing all you can to keep your baby healthy. 

6. Keep your baby covered when in public

When in public places, keep your baby in the stroller with a light covering. This can help keep people from wanting to see or touch them. There are also stroller tags that can be added to the stroller that warn people about getting close to your little one because of germs. 

7. Know when to call the doctor

If your child develops a fever over 100.3 degrees and is under 3 months old, contact their pediatrician. These serious illnesses can cause fevers in young infants and they need to be caught and treated quickly. If you are having trouble keeping your baby awake or you cannot wake your child, call the doctor immediately.

It's inevitable that your baby will get sick at some point, but by following these tips, it may keep them from being affected by the "tripledemic."

So how do Olli+Lime's products help keep your baby's nursery as germ-free as possible?

All of our products are durable and able to withstand the needed washings. Our fabrics are 100% cotton percale and twill, printed with water-based inks and free from toxic substances. The inks are heated to a high level, creating a stronger bond with fabric weave. This makes fabric softer and resistant to fading.

Our bedding is also OEKO-TEX Certified, which means it has been tested and is free from harmful substances and harmless to human health.

All of our crib sheets are fade resistant and give your baby the highest quality and comfort. Quality is our priority, and we only use the best fabrics.

We wish you and you: family a happy and healthy holiday season!

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Here Now: Our Year-End Sale - Take 30% off now through the end of the year

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

If you missed our Thanksgiving sale a few weeks ago, there is still time to save on discounted OLLI+LIME items during our end of the year sale!

If you’ve had your eye on any of our products, now is the time to buy! Whether you have a baby on the way in 2023, want to change up your current baby’s room or do a toddler room makeover, enjoy 30% off site wide through the end of the year.

From now, until December 31st, you can save big during our year end sale, so browse away and add to your cart while everything is discounted.

Sometimes we sadly wave bye-bye to designs due to discontinuation of fabric or changing trends. Take advantage of these deep discounts before they are gone forever on our Last Chance page, featuring our signature monochromatic baby blankets, crib sheet and lovey cuddles and grab them before they are gone! To see the last chance page, visit www.olliandlime.com/collections/last-chance.

Make sure to check out our new pre-order page, featuring a new mini triangle pattern in monochrome, a mix of blue/topaz/umber and rose/peach/gray and black. Also available is our Dreamy Ferns pattern in fuschia and Jester’s Hat featuring multi-colored hats on a sage background. Several items in the pre-order are also included in the 30% off sale. To see a sneak peek at the new products that will be available in the new year, visit www.olliandlime.com/collections/new-collection.

Our nursery essentials are bedding sets that come with pre-selected designs and include a blanket, crib sheet and crib skirt. Offering the highest value, while boasting the top designer quality fabrics and colors, you can create the nursery of your dreams.  Finalize the rest of the room with our modern nursery accessories!

One example is the Felix and Marti Classic Crib Set that features a multi triangle patterned sheet and baby blanket design that brings this collection to life while the solid black triangles add a bit of equilibrium  adding an impact to a baby's room. For pops of color with this set, you can choose By The Sea or Floaties in the Deep to bring in a blue hue.

 

If you are looking for more color, our Curated Bedding Sets already have our colors and designs mixed and matched for you, bringing the black, white and colors together. Best of all, the sets are all under $200 during the sale!

Speaking of color, we’ve got you covered with our new Colorfully Inspired line that includes blue, blush, violet and fun patterns. From our sweet solids to eye-popping gender neutral designs, you are sure to put your creative flair to use in creating a baby's special environment. There are so many options of colors and patterns to choose from in this collection.

To mix and match or add in pops of color with your bedding, check out our accessories. You can find monochrome or color options in lovey cuddles, changing pads and swaddles. OLLI+LIME focuses on high contrast accessories and decorations which promote sensory development for your growing baby.  With quality wall décor, wall décor, accent pillows and more, the monochromatic options help you customize your baby's environment and modern look!

Accent pillows come in a variety of patterns to match the crib bedding, along with wall art and easy to install wall decals to add a pop to the walls.

Everything at OLLI+LIME is handcrafted in the USA. All of the bedding products at OLLI+LIME feature 100% cotton percale fabric and are made with a fade-resistant printing process to ensure they last and give your baby comfort from their very first sleep.

Whether you are getting last minute holiday gifts or preparing a nursery for the new year, now is a perfect time to get your order in!

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By Leah Eagle

If you missed our Thanksgiving sale a few weeks ago, there is still time to save on discounted OLLI+LIME items during our end of the year sale!

If you’ve had your eye on any of our products, now is the time to buy! Whether you have a baby on the way in 2023, want to change up your current baby’s room or do a toddler room makeover, enjoy 30% off site wide through the end of the year.

From now, until December 31st, you can save big during our year end sale, so browse away and add to your cart while everything is discounted.

Sometimes we sadly wave bye-bye to designs due to discontinuation of fabric or changing trends. Take advantage of these deep discounts before they are gone forever on our Last Chance page, featuring our signature monochromatic baby blankets, crib sheet and lovey cuddles and grab them before they are gone! To see the last chance page, visit www.olliandlime.com/collections/last-chance.

Make sure to check out our new pre-order page, featuring a new mini triangle pattern in monochrome, a mix of blue/topaz/umber and rose/peach/gray and black. Also available is our Dreamy Ferns pattern in fuschia and Jester’s Hat featuring multi-colored hats on a sage background. Several items in the pre-order are also included in the 30% off sale. To see a sneak peek at the new products that will be available in the new year, visit www.olliandlime.com/collections/new-collection.

Our nursery essentials are bedding sets that come with pre-selected designs and include a blanket, crib sheet and crib skirt. Offering the highest value, while boasting the top designer quality fabrics and colors, you can create the nursery of your dreams.  Finalize the rest of the room with our modern nursery accessories!

One example is the Felix and Marti Classic Crib Set that features a multi triangle patterned sheet and baby blanket design that brings this collection to life while the solid black triangles add a bit of equilibrium  adding an impact to a baby's room. For pops of color with this set, you can choose By The Sea or Floaties in the Deep to bring in a blue hue.

 

If you are looking for more color, our Curated Bedding Sets already have our colors and designs mixed and matched for you, bringing the black, white and colors together. Best of all, the sets are all under $200 during the sale!

Speaking of color, we’ve got you covered with our new Colorfully Inspired line that includes blue, blush, violet and fun patterns. From our sweet solids to eye-popping gender neutral designs, you are sure to put your creative flair to use in creating a baby's special environment. There are so many options of colors and patterns to choose from in this collection.

To mix and match or add in pops of color with your bedding, check out our accessories. You can find monochrome or color options in lovey cuddles, changing pads and swaddles. OLLI+LIME focuses on high contrast accessories and decorations which promote sensory development for your growing baby.  With quality wall décor, wall décor, accent pillows and more, the monochromatic options help you customize your baby's environment and modern look!

Accent pillows come in a variety of patterns to match the crib bedding, along with wall art and easy to install wall decals to add a pop to the walls.

Everything at OLLI+LIME is handcrafted in the USA. All of the bedding products at OLLI+LIME feature 100% cotton percale fabric and are made with a fade-resistant printing process to ensure they last and give your baby comfort from their very first sleep.

Whether you are getting last minute holiday gifts or preparing a nursery for the new year, now is a perfect time to get your order in!

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Holiday Gift Ideas for your little one this holiday season

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

The holiday season is in full swing and if you have added a new baby to your family, this will be an extra special time for your family.

Your baby will only have their first holiday season one time, and there are lots of options to make it memorable. They won’t remember it, but take lots of pictures so they can look at them when they’re older together and see what a wonderful time it was.

Here’s a list of gift ideas that can make your baby’s first holiday season a special one.

ALL AGES:

Festive pajamas
You get your little one their own special pair (or pairs!), or go for a matching set for the entire family. Either way, pajamas are always a hit. Family pajamas have soared in popularity over the years and make for great photos.

A knit hat
What better way to keep your baby’s head warm than an adorable knit hat. For a bonus, get one with a pom-pom on the top for added cuteness.

Christmas stocking
If your family celebrates Christmas, it’s time to add another stocking to the mantel for your baby’s first Christmas! There are tons of options to choose from, from monogrammed, to baby’s first Christmas to one that matches the ones you already have. Make sure to add some items in there for a special surprise!

Special ornament
While you’ll likely have a Baby’s First Christmas ornament (or several!) There are kits available to make your own at home. You can put their tiny handprint in clay and have the keepsake for years to come. You can also get them personalized with your baby’s name and year.

Baby Books
Whether it’s special Christmas themed books, or classic nursery rhymes, books always make a great gift. Spending time reading with your child each day can help with their social development and thinking skills. It also gives you and your little one that special time together.

Personalized silhouettes
A unique gift that you can keep for years to come. It can be made into an ornament or framed to hang on the wall.

A piggy bank
A classic gift your child can use for years to come. Go ahead and add some money inside as a surprise, and teach them about saving!

Nursery bedding
Olli+Lime has so many choices of sheets, blankets and more for your little one. Check out all of the options at olliandlime.com.

0-3 months

Lovey Cuddles
These can be sweet friends for your little one. Whether cuddling with it for a nap or bedtime, or soothing them when they’re upset, lovey’s can be something your child will love for years to come.

Play Mat
This will give your baby something fun and new to do. Whether you choose a monochromatic piece or one full of color, mats will help your baby learn new things and enjoy new sounds.

Sophie the Giraffe
Sophie has been around for years and is a beloved plastic giraffe that babies can chew on, hold or play with. There’s even a Christmas gift set that includes a matching hat and slippers for your baby.

Booties
Keep those tiny baby feet warm on cold days with adorable baby booties, maybe even Christmas themed for the holidays!

3-6 months

Rattle & teether toys
Your baby can learn to grasp, hold and shake and also work out those gums as their teeth begin coming in.

Tummy time mat
It won’t be long until your baby is crawling. Help them work on their coordination and mobility by spending time on their tummy and getting those leg muscles ready to crawl!

Activity Center
Your baby will love sitting up in a bouncer and enjoying the fun activities they can explore within a hands reach. They can also strengthen their leg muscles by bouncing. Other options are standing musical tables with a variety of sights and sounds.

6-9 months

Sensory toys
There are plenty of sensory toy options for your little one to engage one or more of their senses. Sensory toys help strengthen baby's brain development as they grow. Even black and white wall art can help stimulate baby's vision! 

Stacking toys
Whether it’s the little rings to stack on a stick, stacking cups or other items, these toys help with babies motor skills and hand eye coordination.

A plush Christmas tree
There are cute options available in cloth, plastic and felt options that will allow your baby to decorate their own tree.

Bath toys
Once your baby is sitting up in the bathtub, they’ll love some toys to play with during their bath time. There are limitless options available, from simple rubber ducks, these water friendly toys provide lots of bath fun.

9-12 months

A personalized puzzle
Wooden puzzles with your child’s name can help them with letter recognition and with coordination of putting the pieces in.

A walker
It won’t be long until your baby is ready to take their first steps! Walkers can provide a great way to practice and strengthen their leg muscles to get ready for the big day! They also come with activities on the front that provide entertainment.

Musical instrument toys
Xylophones, shakers and rattles can be your baby’s first introduction to making music. Enjoy these before they are old enough for drum sets and guitars!

Blocks
There are lots of options for little ones to learn to stack and build. These are great for little hands and practicing their fine motor skills.

A ball popper
Tiny hands can place the plastic balls into an animal and watch them pop out of the top. This can be lots of fun and entertainment.

Cars and trucks
It may not be time for Hot Wheels yet, but there are plenty of fun options of vehicles they can roll around that light up and have other activities.

Some wheels
Either a classic red wagon or a Little Tykes Cozy Coupe, this is a great age to introduce your child to their first ride.

An outdoor swing or playset
Whether you can install a Little Tykes swing on your back deck or want to go for a full size playset, your little one will have hours of outdoor fun swinging and sliding

Hope these suggestions give you some great ideas of what to get your baby for the holidays. Our team at Olli+Lime wishes you and your family a very happy holiday season!

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Holiday Gift Ideas for your little one this holiday season

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

The holiday season is in full swing and if you have added a new baby to your family, this will be an extra special time for your family.

Your baby will only have their first holiday season one time, and there are lots of options to make it memorable. They won’t remember it, but take lots of pictures so they can look at them when they’re older together and see what a wonderful time it was.

Here’s a list of gift ideas that can make your baby’s first holiday season a special one.

ALL AGES:

Festive pajamas
You get your little one their own special pair (or pairs!), or go for a matching set for the entire family. Either way, pajamas are always a hit. Family pajamas have soared in popularity over the years and make for great photos.

A knit hat
What better way to keep your baby’s head warm than an adorable knit hat. For a bonus, get one with a pom-pom on the top for added cuteness.

Christmas stocking
If your family celebrates Christmas, it’s time to add another stocking to the mantel for your baby’s first Christmas! There are tons of options to choose from, from monogrammed, to baby’s first Christmas to one that matches the ones you already have. Make sure to add some items in there for a special surprise!

Special ornament
While you’ll likely have a Baby’s First Christmas ornament (or several!) There are kits available to make your own at home. You can put their tiny handprint in clay and have the keepsake for years to come. You can also get them personalized with your baby’s name and year.

Baby Books
Whether it’s special Christmas themed books, or classic nursery rhymes, books always make a great gift. Spending time reading with your child each day can help with their social development and thinking skills. It also gives you and your little one that special time together.

Personalized silhouettes
A unique gift that you can keep for years to come. It can be made into an ornament or framed to hang on the wall.

A piggy bank
A classic gift your child can use for years to come. Go ahead and add some money inside as a surprise, and teach them about saving!

Nursery bedding
Olli+Lime has so many choices of sheets, blankets and more for your little one. Check out all of the options at olliandlime.com.

0-3 months

Lovey Cuddles
These can be sweet friends for your little one. Whether cuddling with it for a nap or bedtime, or soothing them when they’re upset, lovey’s can be something your child will love for years to come.

Play Mat
This will give your baby something fun and new to do. Whether you choose a monochromatic piece or one full of color, mats will help your baby learn new things and enjoy new sounds.

Sophie the Giraffe
Sophie has been around for years and is a beloved plastic giraffe that babies can chew on, hold or play with. There’s even a Christmas gift set that includes a matching hat and slippers for your baby.

Booties
Keep those tiny baby feet warm on cold days with adorable baby booties, maybe even Christmas themed for the holidays!

3-6 months

Rattle & teether toys
Your baby can learn to grasp, hold and shake and also work out those gums as their teeth begin coming in.

Tummy time mat
It won’t be long until your baby is crawling. Help them work on their coordination and mobility by spending time on their tummy and getting those leg muscles ready to crawl!

Activity Center
Your baby will love sitting up in a bouncer and enjoying the fun activities they can explore within a hands reach. They can also strengthen their leg muscles by bouncing. Other options are standing musical tables with a variety of sights and sounds.

6-9 months

Sensory toys
There are plenty of sensory toy options for your little one to engage one or more of their senses. Sensory toys help strengthen baby's brain development as they grow. Even black and white wall art can help stimulate baby's vision! 

Stacking toys
Whether it’s the little rings to stack on a stick, stacking cups or other items, these toys help with babies motor skills and hand eye coordination.

A plush Christmas tree
There are cute options available in cloth, plastic and felt options that will allow your baby to decorate their own tree.

Bath toys
Once your baby is sitting up in the bathtub, they’ll love some toys to play with during their bath time. There are limitless options available, from simple rubber ducks, these water friendly toys provide lots of bath fun.

9-12 months

A personalized puzzle
Wooden puzzles with your child’s name can help them with letter recognition and with coordination of putting the pieces in.

A walker
It won’t be long until your baby is ready to take their first steps! Walkers can provide a great way to practice and strengthen their leg muscles to get ready for the big day! They also come with activities on the front that provide entertainment.

Musical instrument toys
Xylophones, shakers and rattles can be your baby’s first introduction to making music. Enjoy these before they are old enough for drum sets and guitars!

Blocks
There are lots of options for little ones to learn to stack and build. These are great for little hands and practicing their fine motor skills.

A ball popper
Tiny hands can place the plastic balls into an animal and watch them pop out of the top. This can be lots of fun and entertainment.

Cars and trucks
It may not be time for Hot Wheels yet, but there are plenty of fun options of vehicles they can roll around that light up and have other activities.

Some wheels
Either a classic red wagon or a Little Tykes Cozy Coupe, this is a great age to introduce your child to their first ride.

An outdoor swing or playset
Whether you can install a Little Tykes swing on your back deck or want to go for a full size playset, your little one will have hours of outdoor fun swinging and sliding

Hope these suggestions give you some great ideas of what to get your baby for the holidays. Our team at Olli+Lime wishes you and your family a very happy holiday season!

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ENJOY THANKSGIVING & SAVE 30% OFF ALL OLLI+LIME!

Posted by Joy Hart on

The Olli+Lime Team hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!  Our Black Friday sale is active, so you can begin saving now through Monday, November 28th.  

Olli+Lime offers a wide variety of modern bedding sets, nursery essentials, accessories and art, featuring a range of monochromatic, black and white and gender neutral designs. Check out our new modern colors to allow you maximum flexibility in designing your baby's special place.

Thank you for all who have supported our transition this year and we look forward to bringing you more value, quality-driven products -- handcrafted in the USA.

 

Thanks,

Olli+Lime Team

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ENJOY THANKSGIVING & SAVE 30% OFF ALL OLLI+LIME!

Posted by Joy Hart on

The Olli+Lime Team hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!  Our Black Friday sale is active, so you can begin saving now through Monday, November 28th.  

Olli+Lime offers a wide variety of modern bedding sets, nursery essentials, accessories and art, featuring a range of monochromatic, black and white and gender neutral designs. Check out our new modern colors to allow you maximum flexibility in designing your baby's special place.

Thank you for all who have supported our transition this year and we look forward to bringing you more value, quality-driven products -- handcrafted in the USA.

 

Thanks,

Olli+Lime Team

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Enhance relationships and avoid conflict after baby

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

Of all the advice and information I was given before we had our first child, no one ever told me how much our marriage would change.

It was a complete shock how different it was going from a couple to becoming parents. Part of the problem is that you're both tired and have less time to spend with your partner than you’re used to. Just remember that this stage won’t last forever!

Researchers have found that about 67 percent of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three years of a baby’s life and this deterioration often persists into subsequent years (Psychology Today).

While it was an exciting and life-changing experience, nothing prepares you for how things with your partner will change. Although it is a magical time bringing your baby home, couples will be exhausted and frustrated, along with a myriad of other feelings. That combination of feelings can definitely take a toll on your relationship if you're not careful.

Research also shows that couples typically experience an increase in conflict and a decrease in overall satisfaction when their first child is born. (That’s an understatement.)

To keep things on track, here is a list of things you can do. But for that to happen, new parents have to put as much planning and effort into preserving and protecting their marriage as they did preparing for their baby.

Divide responsibilities equally

Discuss who can handle different responsibilities. Figure out what you both would like to see and figure out then create a compromise that works. Divvy up the duties so one person isn’t taking the load of doing everything. Resentment, anger, and frustration can develop quickly if one partner feels like they are doing all the work and never gets a break.

Whether you both plan to continue working, or one parent plans to stay at home full-time, the childcare, cooking, and household chores need to be split in a way that makes sense for your family. It is unrealistic to expect one parent to shoulder all the responsibilities.

Figure out a sleep strategy that works

This is a big one! Babies need to eat every few hours, which means lots of interrupted sleep those first few weeks (or months!) This is why tiredness is a major source of contention among new parents. Adjusting to a few hours of sleep every night is a big change.

To plan for this stressful and draining time period, couples will need to figure out a plan to handle the sleepless nights. Try to avoid one partner sleeping every night while the other is up with the baby. My husband and I both got up with our babies. One would warm the bottle while the other would change the diaper. We would trade off who fed and who got to go back to sleep.

Even if one partner works during the week and the other stays at home, they should come up with a plan so both of them can get at least some sleep.

What’s important is that one parent is not doing all the nighttime feedings and changings alone. This will look different for every couple, but do whatever works best for you.

Show appreciation for each other

Kind words can go a long way. My love language is words of affirmation, so anytime my husband told me I was appreciated meant a lot to me.

Give each other compliments each day. Tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them. Leave a note on the counter so they’ll find it when they leave for work, or send a random text during the day. It doesn’t take a lot of effort, but it can go a long way.

Accept differences in parenting styles

Disclaimer: you and your partner will not do things the exact same way. Your partner may feed the baby differently than you do, or have a different way to get the baby to sleep.

Don’t criticize. Let them do what works for them and you do what works for you. Nobody likes to be nagged or corrected. This may cause them to not want to help if they feel they can’t do it the “right way.” Be willing to accept that your partner may do things differently and that’s fine. Different isn’t bad.

Invest in your relationship

Making sure you and your partner stay connected is of the utmost importance. Whether that’s having a date night, being intimate or just carving out some time for the two of you each day.

It’s easy to lose connection when you’re both focused on your baby, so it takes effort to stay connected after adding a baby to your family. Your relationship is a priority and it’s so important to keep connected in your relationship. This will not only benefit your marriage, but also your children.

Talk about your feelings

This may sound cheesy, but you’ll both have a lot of new feelings once your baby is born. Discuss the good and the bad with each other. You’re in this together, so sharing how you are feeling and being honest with each other is key.

Moms can feel isolated and lonely, and many deal with postpartum depression. Dad’s can feel unsure of what to do and how to help. Keeping the lines of communication open and active can help both partners. Just being there for each other and listening can help you both. You and your partner need to tell each other what you want and what's bothering you if you're resentful, angry or upset.

While things will be different after baby, both good and bad, just remember this phase is temporary. Do the best you can to get through those tough times because there will be plenty of good times ahead!

 

 

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Enhance relationships and avoid conflict after baby

Posted by Joy Hart on

By Leah Eagle

Of all the advice and information I was given before we had our first child, no one ever told me how much our marriage would change.

It was a complete shock how different it was going from a couple to becoming parents. Part of the problem is that you're both tired and have less time to spend with your partner than you’re used to. Just remember that this stage won’t last forever!

Researchers have found that about 67 percent of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three years of a baby’s life and this deterioration often persists into subsequent years (Psychology Today).

While it was an exciting and life-changing experience, nothing prepares you for how things with your partner will change. Although it is a magical time bringing your baby home, couples will be exhausted and frustrated, along with a myriad of other feelings. That combination of feelings can definitely take a toll on your relationship if you're not careful.

Research also shows that couples typically experience an increase in conflict and a decrease in overall satisfaction when their first child is born. (That’s an understatement.)

To keep things on track, here is a list of things you can do. But for that to happen, new parents have to put as much planning and effort into preserving and protecting their marriage as they did preparing for their baby.

Divide responsibilities equally

Discuss who can handle different responsibilities. Figure out what you both would like to see and figure out then create a compromise that works. Divvy up the duties so one person isn’t taking the load of doing everything. Resentment, anger, and frustration can develop quickly if one partner feels like they are doing all the work and never gets a break.

Whether you both plan to continue working, or one parent plans to stay at home full-time, the childcare, cooking, and household chores need to be split in a way that makes sense for your family. It is unrealistic to expect one parent to shoulder all the responsibilities.

Figure out a sleep strategy that works

This is a big one! Babies need to eat every few hours, which means lots of interrupted sleep those first few weeks (or months!) This is why tiredness is a major source of contention among new parents. Adjusting to a few hours of sleep every night is a big change.

To plan for this stressful and draining time period, couples will need to figure out a plan to handle the sleepless nights. Try to avoid one partner sleeping every night while the other is up with the baby. My husband and I both got up with our babies. One would warm the bottle while the other would change the diaper. We would trade off who fed and who got to go back to sleep.

Even if one partner works during the week and the other stays at home, they should come up with a plan so both of them can get at least some sleep.

What’s important is that one parent is not doing all the nighttime feedings and changings alone. This will look different for every couple, but do whatever works best for you.

Show appreciation for each other

Kind words can go a long way. My love language is words of affirmation, so anytime my husband told me I was appreciated meant a lot to me.

Give each other compliments each day. Tell your partner how much you love and appreciate them. Leave a note on the counter so they’ll find it when they leave for work, or send a random text during the day. It doesn’t take a lot of effort, but it can go a long way.

Accept differences in parenting styles

Disclaimer: you and your partner will not do things the exact same way. Your partner may feed the baby differently than you do, or have a different way to get the baby to sleep.

Don’t criticize. Let them do what works for them and you do what works for you. Nobody likes to be nagged or corrected. This may cause them to not want to help if they feel they can’t do it the “right way.” Be willing to accept that your partner may do things differently and that’s fine. Different isn’t bad.

Invest in your relationship

Making sure you and your partner stay connected is of the utmost importance. Whether that’s having a date night, being intimate or just carving out some time for the two of you each day.

It’s easy to lose connection when you’re both focused on your baby, so it takes effort to stay connected after adding a baby to your family. Your relationship is a priority and it’s so important to keep connected in your relationship. This will not only benefit your marriage, but also your children.

Talk about your feelings

This may sound cheesy, but you’ll both have a lot of new feelings once your baby is born. Discuss the good and the bad with each other. You’re in this together, so sharing how you are feeling and being honest with each other is key.

Moms can feel isolated and lonely, and many deal with postpartum depression. Dad’s can feel unsure of what to do and how to help. Keeping the lines of communication open and active can help both partners. Just being there for each other and listening can help you both. You and your partner need to tell each other what you want and what's bothering you if you're resentful, angry or upset.

While things will be different after baby, both good and bad, just remember this phase is temporary. Do the best you can to get through those tough times because there will be plenty of good times ahead!

 

 

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